I’m sorry you have such a negative view of all adoption. My goal is to get all kids in a nurturing, loving, and safe environment, whether back with birthparents or with adopting parents. I posted a fuller side of my view on my blog. Family preservation is the gold standard too often ignored. I hope you never had to go through anything like this personally. The process, no matter where it ends, must be excruciatingly traumatic. That’s a safe generalization. Take care.

May 15, 2012

daniblogson asked: I'm sorry you have such a negative view of all adoption. My goal is to get all kids in a nurturing, loving, and safe environment, whether back with birthparents or with adopting parents. I posted a fuller side of my view on my blog. Family preservation is the gold standard too often ignored. I hope you never had to go through anything like this personally. The process, no matter where it ends, must be excruciatingly traumatic. That's a safe generalization. Take care.

Yes, and the gold standard is ignored exactly because of views like the ones I post about on my blog and that others post about on their blogs. My goal is to radically overhaul adoption so that it isn’t a racist, classist, sexist institution that currently exists to meet the needs of (commonly infertile) adults, make tons of money for those involved in the brokering, and erases a child’s history, legally binds them to others against their will with no way to undo it, seals and falsifies records, degenerates the natural family, and expects them to be grateful for it.

I’m sorry you have such a positive view of adoption. Adoption is loss and trauma. Adoption is never-ending for those it is inflicted upon. If adoption is ever a necessary loss for a child, then there’s no need for the legal lies and obliteration of adoption. Permanent guardianship is a perfectly good option that is rarely utilised because adopters want the ownership aspect of modern western adoption. A child shouldn’t have to have his or her history obliterated to obtain a safe family.

EDITED TO ADD: Adoption Sometimes Gets All Fucked Up, 101

- An extremely good read. I recommend it to everyone. Especially feminists and social justice peoples.

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